It is important if you wish to tell your story, whether compulsively or to begin the process of understanding what happened, that the person who is listening is trained in how to listen without re-traumatising, re-triggering or gas-lighting you.
Unfortunately many healthcare providers aren’t trained but this is slowly changing. The practitioners listed on this directory are trained in how to listen to difficult or traumatic birth stories. They know how to make a listening service an opportunity to be heard, to have your feelings acknowledged and validated, to begin to understand how it may still be impacting on your day to day life and relationships and if appropriate to begin the process of feeling differently. If you request a debrief at your hospital then ask if the person facilitating that service has received trauma informed training.
This is usually delivered over a series of 3 sessions (sometimes more) and looks to address the following:
If you have been experiencing anxiety that you do not think is related to a particular trauma or event, or if you have been experiencing panic attacks or debilitating anxiety and want to learn the skills that can help you to manage anxiety and begin to thrive then working with a practitioner could help.
Support is offered by trained practitioners to listen to and understand the underlying thoughts, feelings, events and situations that can be driving symptoms of depression. A practice of mindfulness and self compassion is shared to illuminate the harsh, critical thought patterns that can make coping with parenthood feel difficult and upsetting.
Working with a practitioner can help to focus attention on resources, skills and abilities that can begin to turn the tables on depression. Part of the process may include addressing traumatic perinatal events using an exercise like TBR 3 Step Rewind.
Trained TBR practitioners understand that losing a pregnancy and baby is a traumatic event. It is natural to feel a huge amount of grief and sadly sometimes this can be compounded by the lack of support and understanding offered by friends, family, care providers and society at large. You may not know what kind of support you need right now, however this might change as time goes on. It can help to know that support is available. TBR practitioners can help in the following ways:
The UK charity SANDS also provides a helpline and peer support groups. You can find out more here.
Finding out about a life changing injury after birth can be traumatic even if the birth itself was not traumatic. It is natural when this discovery is made about the most intimate and private part of the body to feel upset, angry and very negative. Long term these feelings can have a damaging impact on the relationship we have with ourselves and others. Unfortunately these feelings can be compounded by difficulty in getting a diagnosis, accessing effective and appropriate treatment and making sense of the sometimes conflicting advice available. A trained practitioner can help in the following ways:
All practitioners have signed a Code of Conduct & Ethics agreement which you can read here. It’s a good idea to make contact with a practitioner either via phone call or email and get a sense of whether they are a good match for you. Ask yourself can you trust this person? Do you feel confident in their ability to support you as you learn, heal and grow?
Some TBR practitioners hold additional therapeutic qualifications, such as counsellor or hypnotherapist, however the majority do not. Most practitioners are birth professionals or pre and post natal specialists who have undertaken TBR specialist training. Their experience lies in understanding the challenges of the perinatal life stage, the devastating impact of perinatal trauma and process of pregnancy and birth from variety of perspectives. As such they are uniquely placed to serve parents who are experiencing distress due to trauma or anxiety.
Many have additional, valuable skills and services which might be beneficial for you to access such a independent midwifery, doulaing, massage, hypnobirthing and so on. As well participating in training all practitioners have passed the assessments required to attain Practitioner status and regularly attend supervision.
A good listening service has the potential to ignite healing and bring relief. When choosing a practitioner from this web directory be sure to speak to them either personally on the phone or by email to ensure that you feel comfortable talking to them and can trust them.
This is a free, no obligation, 30 minute consultation with a trained Practitioner.